If I can only have one thing in a relationship – ooh dang it’s hard to pick one – I’d pick this.

Okay, wait, two.

1 – To laugh in the hard times.

Am I asking for too much? Yes?

I can dream. Future husband, please read this.

I just don’t want to take life too seriously. I know I suck at some things. We all do. But can we laugh? When shit hits the fan and we’re dangling from the cliff by a piece of floss, can you look at me and say, “At least it’s minty?”

Can we laugh that I suck at clipping my toenails? Can we laugh that you get angry at everything?

Can we laugh that the kids are out to pop our sanity, and the dog ate the garbage, and there’s a hole in my boot?

Can we just laugh?

Why does everything have to be so uptight?

Really big wish list 2 – I just want to explore life together.

To discuss life concepts. To see how far into the unknown we can get, together.

To mine our hearts and minds. To know we can swim further in the ocean safely, because we’re together. I want to touch the heartbeat of the universe.

I want to feel my deepest feelings. I want to chase the sun-sparkled waterfall droplets of a rainbow together. To experience all life has to offer, internally and externally.

To see beauty in the joy. Beauty in the pain. Explore how we find joy painful and vulnerable. To see our patterns and acknowledge our insecurities. To be okay with our conflicting beliefs. Not change. Not fix. Just explore. To find more. To be genuine.

To never settle for good enough. But know every magical moment is more than enough.

To wonder.

To be sensitive. To explore externally and internally together. To taste all the richness of chocolate and all the blur of the city. To push deeper. Truer. Rawer. Purer. Messier.

That’s all I want for us.